How to Find a GloryHole Near Me: A Guide to Kinky Anonymous Pleasure

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Whether on the sucking or fucking side of a gloryhole, there’s something electrifyingly taboo about how impersonal it can be.

From the minute they walk in, partakers are reduced to a body part for someone else’s delight. And, by the end of the passion, they leave knowing they’ve anonymously pleasured a random stranger. If that sounds up your alley, you’re probably wondering where to get started.

“How do I find a gloryhole near me?”

A lot of fetishists think of men’s bathrooms when they imagine a glory hole and although that may have once been true, it’s pretty rare to find a glory hole in a publicly maintained restroom these days.

Instead, look to anonymous swingers’ sites, sex clubs, saunas, porn cinemas, and toy shops, or for a truly DIY experience – you can make your own glory hole at home. For the best up-to-date information on local glory holes near you, we recommend joining SDC – one of the web’s top communities for swingers, open-minded couples and kinks.

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Of course, if you’re dying for the lustiness of a truly public glory hole, you can still find them but know that it’s harder than you might think.

In this article, we’ll help you out but sharing what we know about finding local glory hole spots and explaining some of the sordid histories behind anonymous face fucking as a form of sexual pleasure.

When Did Glory Holes Become a Thing?

Is there a glory hole near me?
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Most people in the community know the whole “men’s bathroom” thing—go to a random stall, move the toilet paper aside, find a hole, stick your dick through it or wait for a dick to appear, suck it or blow a load, and then leave?

Well, it turns out that’s really only part of the story.

While there’s no denying that public restrooms have definitely played a part in the long history of glory holes, they’re really only a small slice of the pie. And to start the story there would mean forgetting a good hundred years of prior history. So, instead, we’re going to turn back to early-19th century England.

According to, the term “glory hole” dates back to Scottish slang from the early 1820s, meaning little more than a common junk drawer (in the literal sense of the word “junk”).

Of course, it wouldn’t be long before the idea of a “junk drawer” evolved into a euphemism for vaginas.

As time went on, the sexual undertones of a glory hole evolved into a physical hole for pleasure and, next thing you know, men were carving out literal holes to stick their penises through.

This is also around the time when the idea of a men’s bathroom comes around. After all, for much of modern history, homosexual acts have been criminalized and relegated to seedy dark alleys.

How Glory Holes Grew Past Their Criminal Past

By drilling out a safe space for gay men to pleasure each other in the comfort of a public bathroom, glory holes acted as a sexual revolution for men hiding their deepest, darkest desires.

Today, now that homosexuality is no longer viewed as a taboo in much of the West, glory holes have transformed from a necessity into a true, unadulterated adult delight.

Now, the Internet is awash with glory hole porn for both straight and gay men, as well as for women. It’s become a truly equalizing fetish for all people wanting to suck or face fuck anonymous strangers separated by a physical wall. And it’s not hard to see:

  • It boils sex down to its most basic body parts
  • There’s the chance to pleasure multiple strangers
  • You never know what or who you might get
  • It has a historic seediness to it, making it inherently kinky and taboo

Among men of all sexualities and persuasions, as well as straight trans and cis women, glory holes have become one of the most beloved and widely searched for kinks. So, count yourself among a large, happy, and well-satisfied community of sexual deviants.

How To Find a GloryHole Near Me?

With all of that history out of the way, let’s dive into how to find a glory hole. These tips are intended to help you find safe spaces to enjoy casual anonymous sex with multiple partners.

We recommend practicing safe sex during all hook-ups to reduce risk and, of course, remember to have fun!

1. Craiglist is Dead but Reddit is Fresh

There was once a time when Craiglist was the go-to site for finding quick anonymous fun. With page after page of m4m/m4f/f4m personal ads, you could easily find a glory hole within minutes. Yet, as with all good things, Craiglist’s personal ads weren’t to last.

After Congress passed a bill in 2018 to fight human trafficking, Craigslist was forced to remove its once-legendary “personal” classified section—fair enough. Of course, horny swingers will keep on swinging and much of the community has now moved to new, friendlier platforms, such as Reddit (home to a LOT of NSFW content).

Real Gloryholes on Reddit

By providing an open forum space for like-minded glory hole enthusiasts, Reddit is now one of the top sites to find local holes. Many of the listings are private homemade glory holes but there are also some channels listing public venues for casual blowjobs.

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2. Swingers Clubs Offer Direct Access to Casual Anonymous Sex

Finding a dedicated swinging community can often feel like a monumental task. By their very nature, they tend to stay hidden in plain sight but it can take a lot of digging to find your way into the community. Skip the guesswork by jumping straight into a swingers’ club.

These venues are temples of pleasure built for local swingers to come together and enjoy each other’s bodies. Many have built-in dark rooms and glory holes where partners can separate, wander, and feel around for new experiences.

Swingers clubs come in all varieties, so we recommend doing your research ahead of time to find a truly personalized experience. They’re often presented as:

  • Bookshops
  • Clubs and bars
  • Restaurants
  • Parties
  • Adult stores
  • Nudist beaches

To find local swinger spots near you, the best site to join is SDC. It has one of the world’s largest swinger communities, with thousands of members online, and a vast collective knowledge of local swinger spots – including glory holes!


3. Adult Superstores and Sex Toy Shops Welcome All

For many of us, the local sex shop is a go-to for all of our kinky needs. Whether it’s a solo session or with a partner, these shops have everything we need to get off. They’re also the perfect place to find a glory hole.

While most sex shops don’t advertise their glory holes, they’re often more than happy to point you in the right direction if you ask around.

If you’re feeling shy, some of the bigger chain stores have entire sections dedicated to glory hole porn and will have plenty of helpful staff on hand to help you find what you’re looking for.

Many sex shops also have backrooms where visitors can browse porn and hook up with like-minded visitors without ever seeing their faces.

Of course, not all sex shops offer these services so be sure to shop around your local area and see if any of the employees can help out!

4. Porn Cinemas are Typical Glory Hole Hotspots

For something a little more public, porn cinemas are often highly trafficked venues for glory-hole lovers.

After all, no one goes to a porn cinema unless they want to get off. This option definitely falls into the “bathroom stall” category of glory holes, making it a popular choice for kinky swingers who like the idea of servicing random strangers in front of other people.

Famous adult cinema in Montreal
A famous adult cinema in Montreal, via Wikipedia

Of course, porn cinemas are a little harder to find nowadays than they were in the ‘70s but that doesn’t mean they’re completely extinct. Even a quick Google search can help you find local locations where you can enjoy the hottest scenes on the big screen before heading to the back of adult stores to enjoy an anonymous blowjob.

5. Gay Saunas are a No-Brainer for Casual Sex Encounters

For any gay or bisexual male readers, a quick journey through your nearest sauna could prove to be an enlightening and mind-blowing experience.

These spaces are specifically designed to provide homosexual men with an area to hook up with as many random strangers as they wish—through glory holes, sex swings, cages, dark rooms, and dungeons.

Best of all, when you’re fully satisfied with your anonymous blowjob session, you can go shower off, hang out in an actual sauna or steam room, or just watch some TV with your fellow horny men.

Of course, this might break the illusion of complete anonymity but it’s still a wonderful day spent in the thralls of physical pleasure.

While they usually look discreet, most major cities have a gay sauna or two and they’re pretty explicit in their online advertising.

Simply Google “gay saunas near me” and you’re sure to find a hit or two. Some have specific community appeals—bears, daddies, twinks, etc.—so if you’re looking for something particular, don’t be afraid to seek it out. Gay bathhouses are another obvious route to try.

6. Make Your Own Gloryhole

Why leave the comfort of home when it’s so easy to make a glory hole of your own? If you prefer to be on the sucking side of a glory hole, you can set up your own anonymous blowjob station using some plywood, a drill, and a bandsaw.

Simply find a spot in your home that’s easily accessible, invite like-minded community members to visit, and wait for men to come and pleasure your throat.

Using public NSFW forums like Reddit, you can attract shy or even discreet men to make the most of your glory hole and enjoy the experience of servicing complete strangers for the first time.

Of course, we recommend using caution before inviting complete strangers into your home.

If you are a part of a local swingers’ community, be transparent with a confidant about your activity so that you’re not completely out on a limb. If it ever seems suspicious or unsafe, immediately follow your better judgment and end the rendezvous. Your safety should trump pleasure.

7. Use a Glory Hole Database to Find Spots in Your Area

There’s a website for everything and glory holes are no exception.

If you’re looking for something in your vicinity, you can use an online glory hole database to find both public and private offerings. We recommend using the database at Glory Hole In to find quality options, as well as a tight-knit community of men and women looking to engage in anonymous hookups through the physical barriers of these kinky holes.

The range of public glory holes is a little limited but, if you’re willing to travel, there are a decent number of options in larger cities such as Chicago, Atlanta, Los Angeles, Dallas, New York, and more regional capitals.

It’s also possible to post inquiries on databases to help narrow down your search to a closer area. With a bit of luck, you’ll soon find available options and the cum-munities that frequent these holes.

8. Find Anonymous Dick the Old-Fashioned Way

Cruising for other swingers and anonymous sex has become a lost art in recent years with the advent of online sex forums. That’s not to say that it’s not still possible though.

Just as gay men used to do in the early and mid-1900s, it’s still possible to scour around the seedy sides of town to find anonymous cocks to suck.

Many truck stops on the outskirts of town are still hotspots for anonymous casual sex and, as much as the employees try to fight it, glory holes continue to find their way into public restrooms.

An authentic washroom glory hole
An authentic washroom glory hole, via Wikipedia

Truckers on the long-haul often stop by to release their loads before carrying on into the night. With some luck and the right timing, you could be there to help them out.

This is, of course, the hardest way to find a glory hole but there’s a certain satisfaction that comes with doing things the old-fashioned way. Tap into that culture and revel in the pleasure.

The Bottom Line on Finding a Glory Hole Near You

Local glory holes have a long and storied history that’s grown from homosexual repression into a popular modern-day kink for both men and single women (or even married women!).

But, unless you’re willing to hunt in public bathrooms on the outskirts of town (and more power to you if you are!) we recommend turning to Internet forums, sex stores, porn cinemas, adult stores or swingers clubs to fully embrace the experience.  


Mike Morris

Mike is a senior contributor to the Red Light Network and is tasked with reviewing the latest adult products, services and trends. He previously worked in production for a famous adult game and is very familiar with the growing space of X-rated titles. Mike has contributed to several other adult blogs, including Euro Sex Scene and Fetish Engine.
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