Looking for the best swinger forums to reach out to other likeminded adults?
Swingers are a sociable bunch and networking with others is an important part of being a lifestyle member. If you’re not willing to ‘connect’ with fellow swingers, you can’t expect to ‘connect’ in any other way. If you see where we’re going here… 😉
Online forums have always been one of the best ways to connect and share resources with other swingers. Despite being somewhat dated compared to Facebook groups, they remain a popular way for swingers to network — with the advantage of being discreet, too! Forums can be used for everything from arranging a hook-up or discussing the best clubs, to sharing dogging spots, or recommendations for useful sex toys.
In short: swinger forums are an essential community resource.
So, in this guide, we’ll be looking at the best forums for swingers, and the top communities for the swinging lifestyle. As you’ll see, there’s a ton of useful swinging sites that are great for sexy networking.
You may also want to check out our guide to some very informative swinger podcasts – full of great material and intimate discussions around The Lifestyle.
The Best Swinger Forums and Communities
Swingers Dating Club (SDC)
We start with our favorite resource for swingers… the ever trusty SDC.
SDC (or Swingers Dating Club) was founded back in 1999 and has evolved over the last two decades to become one of the largest online communities for lifestyle members around the world.
Primarily, the site offers hook ups, hotwifing, and dating opportunities for couples and individuals interested in play. They even offer an app for iOS and Android devices so you can connect on the move.
SDC are also well known for their travel opportunities and can offer exclusive deals for their members to join cruises and trips to specialized resorts.
Being a member of this international community comes with plenty of benefits including a large, varied and active forum. Covering everything from polyamory, fetishes and hook-ups through to games, advice and member videos/photos, the SDC forum is definitely a great place to start if you are looking for a swinging forum.
With over three million members worldwide, the forums are broken into individual groups like you might find on Reddit and are organized by sub-categories including location and interest area which includes things like Health & Fitness, Sexuality and Arts & Entertainment.
In all there are more than 1,300 groups each having anywhere from a dozen or so members to those that have a few thousand participants.
Overall, the SDC site offers additional features which make it more like a social networking platform and includes some very useful ways to connect with lifestyle members such as:
- Live Streams
- Chat Rooms
- Messenger
- Speed Dating
- Blogs
- Contests
An interesting tool is Laidar which shows a visual representation on a map those other members who are located in your area.
Joining SDC is entirely free but a basic membership will only allow you to browse the site. In order to join groups, make contact with other members and access all of the site’s features you will need a Full Member subscription. You can pay for this in one of the following ways:
- $19.95 Monthly
- $39.95 Quarterly
- $66.95 Biannually
- $139.40 Annually
There is also the option to purchase a lifetime membership at a cost of $250 which might seem like a chunk of money but if you are an active swinger using clubs and networked businesses then the rewards will soon outweigh this cost. Plenty of companies offer sizable discounts to SDC members including reduced admission charges to parties and events.
Kasidie
If you are “sexually social” then Kasidie is probably already well known to you and is one of the largest swingers community sites online.
The platform was launched in 2006 and reaches an audience in excess of 1.5 million people every month, the vast majority of whom (95%) come from the United States.
Offering a mix of useful and important social networking tools you can find plenty of information and community features on Kasidie including:
- Club Listings
- Party and Event Listings
- Private and Secret Community Groups catering to various sub-interests
- Member Photo Albums
- Member Profiles
- Chat Rooms
- Instant Messaging
- Travel Mates
Of course, it is the forums we are interested in for this feature and Kasidie does not disappoint with over 4,600 topics covered in a range of categories including:
- Lifestyle, Sex and Sexuality
- International
- Newbie Questions & General Info
- Travel – Resorts, Vacations (Reviews and Trip Reports)
- Health & Fitness
- Clubs & Parties
- Erotica & True Stories
- Humor & Fun
- Politics
- The Hot Spot (for miscellaneous posts)
It’s a really active community where members engage with content posted by other users and you can get a lot of networking opportunities out of the forums as well as be rewarded with some useful information.
Though browsing is entirely free (once you’ve registered a free account), to get more out of this site you will need to upgrade to an Elite Certified Membership. This will grant you access to more photos, user profiles and features including being able to send friend requests, ‘Flirts’ and emails plus join in with the community discussions through the forums, chat rooms and instant messenger.
You can pay for this in one of a few ways such as:
- Monthly – $19.95
- Quarterly – $45.00
- Biannually – $75.00
- Annually – $129.95
Red Hot Pie
Though originating in Australia in 2003, Red Hot Pie is also a popular global brand with platforms specifically catering for Asia and the United Kingdom with a generic international .com brand
The site is known primarily for its casual dating and has over three million registered members worldwide who are interested in hook-ups, casual sex and open relationships. Which is perhaps why swingers are also pretty regular visitors to this platform, along with an eclectic mix of cuckolds and hotwives.
Just like SDC and Kasidie, members can browse for prospective hookups using the social media style interface and there’s a ton of ways to do this. Head to a chat room to start flirting with others, hit up the DateFinder feature to advertise when you want to get busy or just browse using the Discover menu and search for people in a specific location.
It really is an open-minded community that welcomes members of all kinds including polyamorous, kinksters and alt-sex identifiers plus lifestyle members. And it’s the forums here which is one of the main draws to Red Hot Pie.
With around 10,000-15,000 people online at most times of the day you are pretty much guaranteed fast responses to your queries with a great range of categories to post to, including:
- Fetish & Fantasy with sub-forums including BDSM, role play and dogging there are more than 570 different to contribute to or you could just start your own.
- Couples Corner offering 1350+ topics of conversation from cuckolding to swinging, female-led relationships to long-term marriage.
- Secret Men’s Business with 130+ topics ranging from gay massage and butt plugs to cross dressing hookups and fantasy sharing.
There are also specific forum pages for LGBTQ, Guys Ask and Girls Ask plus a Swingers Lifestyle group. This latter forum includes more than 430 different topics for conversation including Parties & Clubs, Hot Wifing, BBC and Open Relationships as well as general information, advice for newcomers and swingles looking for connections.
What we liked about Red Hot Pie is that there are global and regional forums which makes networking far easier.
And one of the biggest selling points for Red Hot Asia over some others on this list is the fact that their platform is available in app form for both Android and iOS devices.
A basic guest membership with Red Hot Pie is absolutely free but this only gives you limited functionality to use the site’s main features. We can recommend upgrading to one of their subscriptions to allow you access to more of the site.
There are three packages available for membership to Red Hot Pie:
- $39.40 per month for Premium
- $54.60 per month for Premium+
- $79.50 per month for Platinum
Reddit Swingers
Reddit is a great forum facility and there are dozens of subreddits dedicated to all kinds of sub-cultures of the swinging community. From groups based on a shared interest in BDSM or cosplay to those who enjoy cultural parties with an interest in fine dining, arts and entertainment you can pretty much find a group to suit your tastes.
This main Reddit Swingers group is a good place to start exploring this platform and offers a very general place to chat and share information.
You can find plenty of links to lifestyle articles, instructional videos and guides plus useful websites.
With almost 200,000 subscribers to the group it’s pretty active and offers a great way to network and discuss anything lifestyle related.
Oh, and if you are a fan of using Reddit and have a profile then we can also recommend the subreddit group Swingers R4R. Not just a forum, the SR4R group is an active place to post for hookups.
One of the nice things about this swingers forum is that Reddit is free to use and you can participate in the group at zero cost.
True Swingers
Launched in 2007, True Swingers is a safe online space for lifestyle members to meet and share their experiences. It was sort of set up as an alternative to the clubs and party scene and has always appealed to those couples and swingers who prefer to play in smaller groups and get to know others at their own pace before arranging swaps
The site has around 75,000 active members with around half of these being based in the United States and Canada with the rest very much covering all international territories including Australia, Europe and South/Central America.
As a platform it has plenty of features to commend it with:
- Club Listings and Reviews
- Event Listings and Party Advertisements
- Member Search Tool
- Swinger Video Chat
- Worldwide Swinger Groups
- Member Photos and Videos
Of course, it is their forums we are interested in here and these are just as extensive as the rest of the site with more than 36,000 posts covering 19,000 topics. These range from Legal Issues and General Discussions to Sex Clubs and Swinger Resorts.
The forum has around 800-1,200 people online at any given time and there are usually 100+ posts being added to the group each day.
Though free to use as a guest, you can upgrade your subscription with True Swingers to allow you access to more of the site’s features. The current costs for membership are as follows:
- $19.94 per quarter
- $46.94 per year
- $129.94 for a lifetime subscription
Swing Lifestyle
Ranked in the top 100 adult websites in the world and with monthly traffic exceeding 7.5 million visitors, Swing Lifestyle is another of the major players in the swinging community.
Their site offers a whole host of ways for users to connect with each other and is designed around a social networking style platform.
Features of Swing Lifestyle include:
- Club and Events Listings
- Adult Personals and Swinger Ads
- Free Erotic Stories
- Pay-Per-View Videos
- Travel and Vacation Listings
- Chat Rooms
You can also find over 16,000 Groups on the site which are arranged by location or sub-categories which include Fun & Fitness, Sexuality & Relationships and some more niche areas of interest such as Wheels, Water & Wind or Government & Politics.
You will need a paid subscription to take part in their forums but this is well worth an upgrade as they are an active online community covering a very mixed range of discussions. Some are focused on parties, events and clubs whilst others are more general covering popular lifestyle topics.
There are several subscription options available with current prices being charged as follows:
- $19.95 for one month
- $29.95 for three months
- $49.95 for six months
- $69.95 for twelve months
- $149.95 for lifetime membership
Another advantage to Swing Lifestyle is the fact that the platform is also available as an app for iOS and Android users which means you can access these forums and groups on the move.
Swingers Board
Unlike a lot of the sites listed in this feature, Swingers Board is a dedicated forum only. You don’t get any extra bells and whistles here such as dating tools and chatrooms.
Instead, this is a community discussion board for a community of real swingers sharing their experience of the lifestyle which can include sex stories, photos and recommendations as well as hook-up opportunities and more.
A simple platform, you can however find some club listings and member blogs plus a sizeable Members Gallery of shared photos.
The forum is at the heart of this site and covers a diverse range of topics such as:
- Swinger Labels and Lingo
- Swinging Boundaries & Rules
- Polyamory and Swinging
- STD and Safe Sex Issues
- Swinging and Nudism
- Bisexual Swingers
- First Swinging Experiences
- Finding People to Swing With
- Swinging Dos and Donts
- Swinging Separately & Open Marriage
- The Emotions of Swinging
It’s one of the most comprehensive ranges of discussions we found being had across those sites we reviewed and members are very active across these boards with more than 200,000 posts!
Registration to the Swingers Board is free and allows you access to all areas.
Adult Friend Finder
https://adultfriendfinder.com/
Not known for its forums but instead for its dating and hook-up opportunities, Adult Friend Finder is one of the largest and most popular casual sex sites in the world. Ranked in the top 15 adult global websites by traffic the platform is visited more than 50 million times every month with a huge following in the United States and Canada.
We could go into enormous detail here about exactly what makes this site the number one place to find a one night stand, play partner or swap opportunity but suffice to say that if you are looking for a couple , a unicorn or regular play date then AFF is certainly THE place to head.
However, it’s the community features here that we’re looking at for this review and the Groups section of Adult Friend Finder is just as popular as its dating side.
You will find almost 190,000 different groups registered on the site which you can browse by location, topic or keyword.
Local groups obviously offer hook-up opportunities but they can also cover some niche sexual interests such as Anal Sex, Medical Play and Rope Bondage through to SFW interests like Cooking, Music and Books.
Swingers have a lot of choice with 227 groups dedicated to the Lifestyle but there are also other areas of interest including:
- Married Couples – 156 Groups
- Group Sex/Orgies – 1,101 Groups
- Swing Clubs – 103 Groups
- Swingers Conventions – 31 Groups
- Hot Tubbing – 27 Groups
Adult Friend Finder is a trusted site and there is plenty of activity in the forums to keep you coming back to join in with discussions.
You can register with Adult Friend Finder for free and join forum groups but upgrading to a paid membership comes with plenty of benefits if you want to use the dating side of the site.
AFF is also available in app form for iOS and Android users.
Fab Swingers
With over 27 million hits per month, Fab Swingers is another one of the most popular adult websites in the world and is currently ranked in the top ten globally.
The site is most commonly used by swingers in the United Kingdom with around 90% of traffic originating from this part of Europe. In fact, it’s so popular in the UK that it actually ranks in the top 100 websites visited from this country and outperforms plenty of retail and banking platforms!
Fab Swingers is an entirely free community site launched in 2006 by a group of lifestyle members and is used by more than 200,000 people on a daily basis. Together these members share stories, videos and photos as well as networking opportunities for hook-ups and important local information on clubs, events and parties.
In total, members on the site can access over 90,000,000 photos and 300,000+ videos making it an incredible repository for some great NSFW swinging content!
Other features on the site include live chat and cams, verified personals and, of course, an active and interesting forum.
There are various sub-categories of discussions with some regional groups including Ireland, France, Australia, New Zealand, Canada and the United States plus one for each of the home nations which make up the United Kingdom (Wales, Scotland and England).
As well as location specific areas, you can check out theads arranged under some other popular categories including:
- Stories and Fantasies
- Meet Requests and Parties
- Camping
- Worldwide Travel
- Coronavirus Talk
There are also some general discussion areas including The Lounge and Swingers Chat.
We’d say that this is one of the more active swingers forums on our list and is definitely the number one go-to for any lifestyle members based in the United Kingdom.
One of the best swinger forums on the web today.
Swinging Heaven
www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/
Another popular lifestyle platform based in the United Kingdom is Swinging Heaven.
Used by more than 1.9 million members mostly located in England, Scotland, Wales and Ireland, the platform serves as a huge networking opportunity for users to meet up.
The site offers plenty of the usual club and event listings plus chat rooms, groups and cams but it’s the forum which is one of the most active parts of the site.
Typically there are several hundred people online with peak hours seeing a few thousand visitors hitting the site with many offering hook-ups or even just some simple sexting. However, it is also the ‘Dogging’ section which is unique to this part of Europe which sees a lot of activity.
Dogging is basically watching others have sex in a public place, often in a car-park or wooded area with those involved in the act sometimes inviting others to join in for some group sex.
What’s useful about Swinging Heaven is that it serves as a directory for popular dogging locations and there is even a map showing where these are located.
Definitely a forum to be involved in if you are based in the UK or Ireland.
Spicy Match
Launched in 2013, Spicy Match is a popular swingers’ networking site based in Europe. As well as offering ways to connect with other lifestyle members and arrange hook-ups they also provide an invaluable directory service for clubs, events, parties and businesses of interest to the swinging community.
Lifestyle pages include sex shops, nudist beaches, travel and holiday clubs plus an interactive worldwide map to help you find them.
See more: The 45 kinkiest hotels in the world.
They are another site which offers an alterative way for swingers to socially network online and you can find chat, video chat and voyeur cams on Spicy Match along with personalised friends lists and multi-user messaging.
Across the site, members are sharing plenty of naughty content and you can even take part in monthly photo contests to be in with a chance of winning cash rewards.
Their erotic forums are pretty active and cover various topics for conversation including:
- Travel & Fun including clubs, meeting places and vacations
- Lifestyle discussions around BDSM, exhibitionism, nudism and fetish
- Erotic Art including photography, movies, literature and drawing/painting
- Sex and Sexual Health
- Erotic Stories and Confessions
Joining this exclusive community is free and you can access lots of the site’s areas to browse but if you want to use Spicy Match to connect with others then you will need to pay a subscription fee. Current membership prices start at $5.22 per week with various plans to suit your needs but you can pick up an annual package for $108.70 or lifetime membership for $274.63.
The Adult Hub
https://swingers.theadulthub.com/forums/
Founded in 2003 The Adult Hub operates a couple of niche communities including BDSM, LGBTQ and (of course) Swingers.
Primarily a dating site, you can register and join for free which allows you to browse for other members but not contact anyone. However, you can hit the platform up for plenty of free information including club listings, parties and events as well as general lifestyle information, blogs and news.
Forums on The Adult Hub are a popular way to connect with others and include plenty of threads on a variety of topics including:
- General Chat
- Holiday Meet Ups
- Instant Action
- Fetishes and Other
- The Social Scene
- CD and Trans
Threads are also arranged by location so you have a better chance of finding local swingers when you are posting.
Their forums are also free to use but if you want to access details of private sex parties, see more member’s media galleries and take part in the Hot or Not feature then you’ll need to upgrade your account. Becoming a VIP member will cost you:
- $35.96 per month
- $85.44 for three months
- $116.94 for six months
The site is as popular in Europe as it is in North America as well as Asia, Australia and India and there are usually tens of thousands of people online at any given time.
Adult Travel Forum
www.adulttravelforum.com/forums/
A bit of a niche one this site but if you are interested in swingers resorts or vacations specifically planned for lifestyle members then this one is well worth checking out.
The forum covers all of the main resorts including Desire, Hedonism and Spice plus popular cruises like Bliss.
There are also discussion boards centered around independent travel advice to different destinations which is pretty useful particularly if you are looking for guidance on local customs, any clubs near you plus travel hook-up opportunities.
If you are considering traveling and checking out swinging clubs or taking a vacation with one of the main travel clubs/resorts then this is definitely a good place to check out what’s what and you might even find some travel buddies before you arrive.
The Adult Travel Forum is free to join.
Into The Lifestyle
A place for the ‘sexual enthusiasts’ of North America to meet online, Into The Lifestyle may not be the largest site on our list but it is a very well put together little platform.
The main body of the site operates like a social networking tool and users of Facebook (and similar) will be familiar with the concept of friending other users, building a network of contacts and using your home page to post updates.
Just like with Facebook, a little pop-up feature shows you who, in your network, is online.
Other features include a newsfeed showing status posts from your network, chat rooms, groups, albums and videos as well as member blogs.
Their forum covers the basics of the swinging lifestyle with three main categories of conversation:
- News and Information
- Clubs, Events and Parties
- General Discussion
With the latter category you can find networking and a marketplace forum but it is the clubs, events and parties area which really sees the most posts.
A free site to be a part of you will need to be a registered and approved member to join in the discussions.
Under Table
Covering Indonesia, Singapore, Thailand, Malaysia and the Philippines Under Table is one of few swingers’ sites dedicated just for the Southeast Asian community.
With more than 87,000 members contributing to more than 65,000 discussions, the primary focus here is on personals and hook-ups for couples, swingles and events/group meet-ups.
If you are based in any of these countries you will know just how hard it can be to find likeminded lifestyle members but this site brings together swingers in the expat community as well as locals and travellers.
As well as personals there are some other discussions and topics of interest in the forums including some general chit-chat, confessions and sexy stories plus photo/video showcases. There is also a nice general Kinks, Fetishes and Lifestyles area with a focus on cuckolding and hotwifing.
Finally, there is a small Market Place where members can buy, sell and trade adult (and SFW) items. Again, in some areas of Southeast Asia, certain adult products are hard to find so this is a pretty useful feature of the site.
Under Table is a free community to join and offers swingers in Southeast Asia a great network of possibilities!
SwingTowns
Another big name in the online swinging community, SwingTowns was primarily launched in 2000 as a dating space for the world’s non-monogamous population.
It has evolved to become more of a community hub and includes a lot of useful information on clubs, events and parties as well as general advice on the open lifestyle. In many ways the site operates like a social networking platform and you can post updates to your own profile, view and connect with friends and new contacts as well as find dates, playmates and events in your area.
There’s also some good directory information included on SwingTowns for clubs, kinks and travel plus some sub-groups you can join up to follow.
Their ‘forum’ isn’t like any others you will find on this list and instead of being arranged by category or topic, it is a infinite wall featuring the latest posts and status updates of members on SwingTowns. In this way, it sort of acts like a newsfeed rather than a forum but we have included it here as we think it’s pretty useful, particularly for those looking to connect with other swingers.
A Lifetime Membership is charged at $169 but there are usually some offers available which can bring this down to $109. Subscription payments are available as follows:
- $18.99 per month
- $37.98 per quarter
Please note that all prices quoted in this feature are correct as of the time of our review.
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