Sex chat rooms were a popular means of ‘adult communication’ on the heady days of the early Internet in the 1990s. But here in 2020, cyber sex has been enhanced by more interactive means of communication – allowing us to see and hear who we’re talking to. Those who used to browse adult chat rooms will more commonly be found on sites like Chaturbate, My Free Cams or one of the big cam/chat networks.
Since most of the big-name providers discontinued their chatroom services over the last decade, the age of the sex chat room is mooted as being over… but is that strictly true?
In this guide, we take a look at the history of the chat room and why these simple spaces are still proving popular; not only with the people that made them so huge in the first place but with a new generation.
- 1 What Are Adult Chat Rooms?
- 2 A Brief History of the Chat Room
- 3 Some Quick Adult Chat Room Tips
- 4 The Language of the Chat Room
- 5 The Best Sex Chat Rooms
What Are Adult Chat Rooms?
We don’t want to teach anyone to suck eggs but as technology advances the humble beginnings of the internet are being lost to some millennials and the iGeneration.
So, for the avoidance of any doubt, by chat rooms we mean a text based forum or area where users can send instant messages to a group or direct to another user.
Note: A popular alternative is phone sex. We’ve got a whole post decimated to the best sex chat lines.
Most chat rooms have a character limit on the messages which sort of makes a chat room like a dedicated mini-Twitter.
Most chat rooms do not require any overly complicated registration process and users can be as anonymous as they like, sharing only an on-screen nickname with no personal information.
Chat rooms do not always have adult overtones and can range from rooms set up for hobbyists or collectors, people with a shared interest or just a generalised ‘lobby’ to chat at random with strangers.
Whilst some cam sites have the ability to ‘chat’ with the performers and visibly to other users, we haven’t considered these to be chat rooms as their primary purpose is to communicate with just one person (the cam model) and not to engage with other people.
A Brief History of the Chat Room
Chat rooms predated any kind of social media on the internet and have been around since before the World Wide Web. The first service of its kind, Talkomatic, was launched in 1973 and was a primitive precursor to what became a huge phenomenon of the 1990s.
As the web started to grow in popularity Compuserve launched the CB Simulator which was followed up by the internet giants of the day, MSN, AOL and Yahoo. All three of these companies provided the simple ability to connect with other users in an anonymous setting to share text based messages. The chat room was born. A primitive system, the technology didn’t need to be anything more than basic.
However, the impact it had was far more than basic.
If you can try to imagine (or even cast your mind back and remember) the world before instant connectivity through the vast assortment of channels we now have available to us. Take away Facebook, Instagram, Kik, SnapChat, Twitter and even SMS and place yourself at your desktop (yes, desktop) with a modem that connects to the internet at the dizzying speeds (if you are lucky) of 9.6 kbps. Images on websites could take minutes to upload and the only thing that was guaranteed to be transferred quickly was text or simple data. The chat room was an ideal way to instantly communicate with a large number of random strangers in a simple form that even the slowest of connections could manage.
And though the idea wasn’t revolutionary (think penpals, CB radios, personal ads, talk lines and even emails), the combination of the immediacy, anonymity and reach was an instant hit…particularly for adults with more than just chat on their minds.
And that immediacy offered by chat rooms became the forerunner for instant messaging services like AOL’s IM and Yahoo Messenger.
Chat rooms were soon populated by an undercurrent of users who (usually late at night) would trawl the rooms hoping to find someone to flirt with and maybe talk dirty to. As technology has been found to do since the dawn of time, the demand for adult content forged new developments. Specific rooms dedicated for the over 18s were introduced and over time became more and more niche to cater for specific interests.
By the mid 1990s, a large proportion of adults in the US and UK had used some form of chat room, albeit a late night foray into this new world. As a result, acronyms derived from chat rooms to speed up interaction slowly started creeping into everyday language and remain in modern use even with the next generation of internet users. Terms like ROFL, LOL, BRB and OMG were all started in the shorthand language of the chat rooms.
However, chat rooms have slowly been dying out with the original market leaders AOL closing their service in 2010, Yahoo doing the same in 2012 and MSN finally closing the doors on their chat room offering in 2014. The reason? With social media, IM services and smartphone apps offering more advanced ways to communicate and video chat services like those offered by cam sites, perhaps chat rooms have had their day… or have they?
Seemingly not. Though Facebook launched its own version of chat rooms in 2016, the pick up has not been that great. What this lacks and what people still crave is that anonymous and simple log in; a kind of universal sexting tool. As a result, you can still find plenty of chat sites online that are dedicated to the traditionalists view of communication; a group space where complete strangers can flirt with, talk dirty to and perhaps make contact with other people without any distractions and in utter anonymity.
Change in Technology: Rooms to Apps, Text to Cams and Chat to IM
Just as our use of desktop and laptop computers has given way to smartphones and tablets, the traditional chat room has evolved from basic rooms to apps designed specifically for instant communication on the move.
However, the unstoppable march of technology coupled with an appetite for the visual has meant that many chat sites have now matured into all-out cam sites. And, though the principles of some of these channels are similar to those of a chat room, there is a big difference between the two.
Where chat sites are anonymous and wholly text based, cam sites focus on a very visible person, performing for attention. Chat sites foster inclusivity whilst cam sites promote (by their very nature) competition.
So, though there are similarities, we’ve tried not to include any sex chat rooms on our list that have a primary focus on the cam model, such as Flirt 4 Free, IM Live and Chaturbate.
Some Quick Adult Chat Room Tips
For anyone who is more used to swiping and tapping or using video chats then old school chat room etiquette might be a little confusing. To help you get started (or to jog your memory), we’ve put together a list of rules to remember when using a chat room.
- Always read the rules and guidelines: Often these are posted at the top of the feed as you enter a room and are almost always posted by a moderator. Sometimes the rules of a site or room can be pretty straightforward whilst others may have specific requests such as use of CAPS LOCK, bad language or use of emojis. If you want to become part of a chat community and avoid being booted out of a room, then read the rules and stick to them.
- Choose a username that has personality: Some sites allow you to register your details so you can return to them whilst others allow anonymous guests to log-in. Whichever way you are approaching these rooms, always choose a username that says something more about you than just Guest22541. For security purposes, you shouldn’t use your full name nor specific information about your location.
- Be a wallflower for a bit and test the water: Spend a few minutes reading up on the conversation that has been occurring immediately before you logged in. This way you can stay on topic and contribute to a room. There is nothing worse in a chat room than random people logging in and immediately interrupting the flow of what has previously been a good chat.
- Use the ‘Bar-Rule’: To get the best out of group interactions it is best to treat them as you would in real life…to an extent. If you wouldn’t walk into a bar and interrupt a group of people who are flirting by telling them the size of your cock then the chances are, that same technique won’t work on a chat room. Be relevant, be real but be confident.
- Keep some of your privates, private: For some, the pleasure of a chat room is the anonymous exchange of flirtatious and often obscene chat and images. There is nothing to stop you from sending dirty pictures but be careful of keeping your identity private. Tales of people who have been blackmailed using such images are sadly true and happen frequently. In addition, don’t share any other personal information including email, telephone number, address and, of course, banking information.
- STOP SHOUTING: Yes, the caps lock rule works in chat rooms too and etiquette demands that you turn it off unless you want to come across as aggressive, rude and/or boorish.
- Direct your conversation: It can be confusing to work out who is talking to who in a chat room so if you are addressing a response or question to a specific person then user their on-screen nickname or a shortened version of it.
- Don’t dominate the conversation: The alpha male in you might not like this and competing with other guys for attention can be part of the chase in a chat room but few people respond well to someone who is self-obsessed.
- Don’t be a gooseberry: If you see that yours are the only comments in a room and no-one is responding then it is likely that many of the other users will be engaged in a private chat. It’s best at this stage to either bail and find another room or just ask.
- Be Safe. There can be a temptation to extend your online chat into something more physical and there are plenty of good news stories where users have hooked up and had some NSA fun. However, chat rooms are places where anonymity can protect the predatory and make the vulnerable more exposed. Stay safe online and never arrange to meet someone that you are not 100% sure of who they are, without leaving details of where you are meeting and having a back-up plan for a swift exit if that meet doesn’t work out as planned.
The Language of the Chat Room
Whilst most of us will be familiar with some elements of text speak (IDK – I Don’t Know, BRB – Be Right Back, WYD – What You Doing), many chat rooms have fully embraced this truncated form of communication. Not only does it allow slow typists the ability to keep up in a conversation but it is a universal way of communicating regardless of geography, age and(often) language.
You won’t need a full lexicon of terms and phrases but we would recommend bookmarking an SMS dictionary such as Net Lingo if you aren’t au fait with this form of communication.
The Best Sex Chat Rooms
So, that’s a little about the evolution of chat rooms from their humble beginnings but what adult chat rooms still exist online where you can get some regular action?
In alphabetical order, we give you the best sex chat rooms….
This site receives over a quarter of a million visits each month. With the average visitors spending almost eight minutes online, there is a good proportion of users who simply dip into the chat rooms before disappearing but a steady stock of regular visitors.
Not strictly an adult only chat site, the range of rooms is varied and includes ‘safe’ rooms for teens, religious users and seniors. Obviously, the room of interest here is ‘Adult Chat’ but we would comment that the moderators try to keep this space quite clean. So, whilst private messages can be more dirty, the main room can be sexy but is definitely R rated and not X rated.
As a result, interactions are quite good and you can easily get involved in a chat instead of just being party to a series of shout outs for sex.
Free to use, 321 Chat simply requires a basic handle and age confirmation in order to access the chat rooms.
The chat room works well on mobile as well as desktop and you can also use webcams.
Adult Chat Net
What we liked about the site is that whilst it is a basic text based service, the design of the room is attractive and includes some nice features; an ‘Invite’ function which is compatible with Facebook plus animated gifs and emojis all give it an enhanced experience.
Right clicking on any user in the room list will give you the option to hold a private message or ‘Whisper’ something to another user as well as ‘Ignore’ unwanted interactions.
Adult chat also has forums available to use for those people who prefer to hold more lengthy conversations on a given topic.
Chat Avenue is one of the most popular general chat sites online attracting around 3 million to 5 million hits per month. Rooms include specific interests including video games, music and sports as well as a variety of adult related chat rooms.
The best rooms to look up are ‘Adult Chat’, ‘Singles Chat’ and ‘Dating Chat’ with the former being strictly for over 18s.
The room environments are slick and well-designed with plenty of interaction going on between users. In fact, with around 1000 users online at any time, you shouldn’t have any problem finding people to chat with.
The site is free to use and you aren’t required to register any personal details in order to use the service.
Chat For Free
Chat For Free is a video chat based service that has been operating since 2005. The site has around half a million hits a month with the average session lasting just 2 minutes and has quite a bounce rate. However, there are rooms which can attract much longer interactions.
The multi-cam rooms can be a bit daunting at first but are quite a good way to interact though of course offers no anonymity.
There are many different chat rooms available including seniors, random and romance. The adult chat room gets quite busy and most users seem to be after private cam-to-cam sessions.
You can use the site as a guest or you can register for free to access more features.
A UK based chat site, Chat IW is ranked 5,623rd most visited site in the country. On average, 350,000 to 400,000 users are attracted to Chat IW with the average visitor staying for over 22 minutes per session. This is a good metric and indicates that engagement on the site is high.
We certainly found that there was a couple of thousand users online each time we visited. And, though a UK site, many users were international in origin.
The site is free to use and requires no complicated registration process to get started allowing users to remain anonymous.
Interaction is via selecting another user to send a message to (text/pics or cam chat) and there is no central ‘lobby’ room.
With around 300,000 users visiting the site each month, each staying for approximately 15 minutes, Chatropolis has a reputation for being more of a ‘sticky’ site.
And, when you browse through the site, it’s not hard to see why so many people use Chatropolis.
There is a huge variety of rooms available, ranging from niche interest areas like ‘Black Cock, White Woman’, ‘Obedient Whores’ and ‘Cuckold Husbands’ to more general rooms. There is even a room, ‘Call Me?’ which is dedicated to those who are looking for phone sex.
Most of the rooms have a high proportion of visitors posting images and of these, some do link to third party sites.
Though the site is free to use, the best experience is gained from members who pay a subscription fee. Costs start at $9.95 per month though a year’s membership comes at just $44.95.
Chat Roulette has risen in popularity over the last couple of years and is currently ranked in the top 25,000 websites in the world with between 4 million and 6 million visits a month.
Though not a chat room in the traditional sense, we have included it here as it offers something slightly different. The service pairs up two random strangers for an online chat using either text and/or cams.
It’s a little like a live action Tinder site and the pairings can be entirely random…unless you go Premium. For $10.00, you can access 100 connections whereby your random chat partner will be a specific gender. Without this service, the chances of connecting with a woman are quite low as the male to female ratio is heavy on the guys.
You can ignore webcams and simply use a text based service to interact with your randomised screen partner.
If you like the idea of randomised cam chat then there are other similar sites including Omegle, Camzap, Stickam, Bazoocam, Tiny Chat, Tippity and Imeetzu. Insta Chat Rooms is also a popular video chat roulette site.
ChatVille is another video based chat room service. With 2.8 million users, there are usually between 750 and 1500 users online at any given time.
Though free to use, you are required to register some basic information including date of birth, gender and email address. You will need to validate your email address with an activation code.
Like Chat Roulette, ChatVille isn’t a chat room in the traditional sense but does give another option for users looking for random connections using their cam in addition to general text based interaction.
Chat ZoZo has a good user base, registering between ¾ million and one million visitors each month with the average duration of a visit being five minutes. The predominant user base comes from India but there is also a high rate of use from the U.S.A.
Chat rooms include a video chat and adult chat area with each attracting a few dozen guests at a time.
As ever with online websites, the ratio of men to women is disproportionate towards guys but the interaction on the site is quite good.
The site also offers a chat roulette option for randomised matches as well as providing a community for adult chat fans in the form of sexting, forums and cam chat rooms.
The site is free to use but VIP membership does give privileges and assurances that aren’t available as a guest (VIP members are all verified female).
Chatzy is another popular U.S. site ranking in the top 7000 sites in the country and receiving between 4 million and 5 million visitors per month. The average duration of a visit is around fifteen minutes and the site is considered ‘sticky’.
What makes Chatzy different to any other site on this list is that your chat rooms are personal and private meaning only those you have invited can join your session. Whilst the site isn’t an opportunity to find new connections, it does offer you a way to tailor make your own chat environment. Popular with webmasters and groups of people who don’t want to use social media sites to conduct certain conversations, Chatzy offers some degree of privacy.
You can sign in using social media sites like Facebook, Google+, LinkedIn or Microsoft Live or via email activation.
Free to use, there are benefits to paying a premium subscription including no ads, faster connection speeds to the service (less timeouts) and unrestricted access to all rooms. Membership costs a few dollars a month.
Free Chat Now (FCN)
One of the stalwarts of the chat community, FCN has been running since the 1990s and still provides chat room services for over 2.5 million users every month.
Offering video chat and text based rooms, FCN caters for adults looking for flirty and dirty talk. The service is entirely free and is one of the few sites on our list that still offers a huge range of rooms. Rooms include #singleschat, #gameplaychat and #sexchat.
You can use webcams with some rooms in FCN and generally the level of interaction is good.
The site is, and always has been, 100% free.
iSexyChat receives around 600,000 to one million users each month with the average user remaining on the site for approximately seven and a half minutes.
The room we hit up on our initial foray (Sex Chat) was a busy one with plenty of activity. However, it was less a ‘chat’ and more a steady noise of solo shout outs. Several visits later and we are convinced that iSexy Chat is a great lobby area to PM other users based on what they ‘advertise’.
However, our visits to the General Chat room were far more successful in terms of interaction yet there was still a good amount of flirtation.
You aren’t required to register any personal details in order to use the site; simply select a room, confirm your gender and choose a nickname.
The site is free to use.
A site set up and run by kinksters for kinksters, the range of chat rooms on Kinkster Chat is quite varied. Rooms use hashtags to distinguish specialist interest groups with some more general areas being quite popular.
You aren’t required to register any personal information in order to use Kinkster Chat with just a simple on-screen nickname being needed. As ever, your nickname is an essential way to identify who you are so choose carefully.
Interaction within the rooms varies depending on the time of day you log in and the mix of people logged in but they appear to be quite active. Webcam interactions are allowed in some rooms with private messaging being a common way for users to chat.
The philosophy of the site is very much YKINMKBYKIOK and the users are quite good at self-policing in order to stay within the rules.
The site is free to use.
Online Free Chat
Online Free Chat uses its own software to host the chat rooms and therefore doesn’t require either a Java of Flash plug-in. Not only does this make the portal more secure but it does also make the site more universally compatible. It works well on mobile and tablet devices as well as desktop and laptop.
The most popular chat rooms are #SexChat and #AdultChat both of which seem to attract between 20 and 120 users depending on the time of day. The former allows the use of explicit language and you can post nude pics to the room. The latter is more of a social chat but some sexy talk is allowed.
The functionality of the site is simple and easy to use and includes ways to send private messages to other users.
You can chat completely anonymously, as a guest, or register an account for more frequent use.
The site is free to use.
Weird Town is a small community site offering a hand-picked selection of sites, information and games. In addition, the site runs a flash chat room service to cater for a range of people including adults, lesbians, gays and anyone looking for something more serious.
Also known as ChatHour, the Weird Town chat portals require you to register and verify your email address before you can start contributing. Once verified, you can browse the chat rooms available including those that have been created by other members, and there are some very niche rooms available. However, the more niche the type of room, the less likely that there is anyone online.
The main ‘Adult Chat’ room is usually well-populated with around 20-30 other users. You could also check out the uncensored chat room, ‘International Chat [Unlimited]’. The site is free to use.
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